crysta1-queer:

sciencemyfiction:

cute-ass-senpai:

asking-ask:

nudeparrot:

cruciatus-animus:

This is why I don’t tell 99% people im bisexual

I love how gay people do it too. Just… really? You’re literally saying the same shit to bisexuals that straight people say to you, and you don’t see the hypocrisy? 

If youre biphobic or hate bisexuals, fucking unfollow me, for serious.

^^^

If youre biphobic or hate bisexuals, fucking unfollow me, for serious.

anyway like tell me again biphobia’s just “misdirected homophobia”?

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

g8keeper:

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

g8keeper:

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

bi/poly/pansexual ≠ attracted to the same gender

pansexual literally means attracted to all genders………. including ur own………….. and it can be argued that bi means all genders as well. that’s what i think it to mean anyway. but if ur poly and don’t like the same gender, surprise! ur not lgbt

agender people dont have a gender and therefore cannot be attracted to the same gender.

bi means two or more.

and why arent people who arent “sga” (ugh) LGBT+? they arent straight. they cannot benefit from heterosexism. they fundamentally are not straight. multisexual people don’t get to be in the community because of “"homophobia”“, that isnt even the brunt of what they experience. you cant argue that, despite all evidence, biphobia in its own right somehow isnt a thing and its all homophobia. all multisexuals experience some form of biphobia regardless of whether they experience homophobia or not.

agender is a gender?? agender people can be attracted to other agender people??

that’s true. if those two or more genders do not include one’s own, that bi person is not lgbt.

lgbt people experience either homophobia or transphobia or both. experiencing biphobia does not necessarily make someone lgbt. though nine times out of ten a bi person is attracted to the same gender.

that what the fuck does it make them?? what the fuck is the point in a community for only people (or only parts of people, as the case may be) who experience homophobia and transphobia? who serves to benefit and how did you come up with this ridiculous standard for who is and isnt allowed in??

the lgbt+ (or better, MOGAI) community is and always has been for people who experience oppression based on their sexual (and in some cases romantic) orientation, gender identity or intersex-ness (is there a word for that?). If specific subsets want to be exclusively for people who experience homophobia or transphobia, thats fine. But attempting to gatekeep the entire community, where all resources and safe spaces are found, to two exclusive, extremely narrow catagories for god knows what reason is extremely fucking shitty.

also, agender is not a gender. agender is inherently the lack of a gender. it is a gender identity but it is not a gender itself.

jofesatruth:

queerghostt:

I’ve seen people refer to ace people talking about being correctively raped as “ace sob stories”

So please if you in any way dismissive of people talking about being sexually abused. Block me. I do not want rape apologists interacting with me in any way.

And the worst thing is they see nothing wrong with this behavior.

I also get tried of seeing them do the, “Look, I’m sorry that you had to face such a traumatizing experience, but I’m gonna invalidate your feelings to explain why your assault wasn’t “acephobia” and then call you cishet if you disagree, even if you’re trans/nb.“😒

I’m so sick of the “Ace Discourse” because it isn’t calling out homophobia/transphobia in the Ace Community like they claim. It’s just harassing Ace/Aro users and then invaliding their identities by calling them “cishet” or calling them homophobic/transphobic for no reason if they disagree with “The Discourse”. It’s pathetic, really.

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

aphobian:

its not that us lgbt “aphobes” actually hate aces/aros when we call ourselves that

its just that u ppl throw that term around so loosely that its a joke now

like whenever some dirty allogay posts the controversial opinion that straight ppl are straight

i can use the exact same logic to justify calling myself a proud homophobe

and yeah, rewriting the experiences of an oppressed group to better fit your narrative is fucking aphobia. ace/aro people arent, and will never be, straight, unless they choose to identify as such. even if they do, it still by no means grants them straight privilege.

An oppressed group is telling you about their experiences and your response is to tell them “no you dont. youre lying. youre all wrong about your oppression. here, let me, a person who is by no means you or a member of your group, tell you what your trauma is and isnt. youre overreacting. ITS OKAY WE CAN JOKE ABOUT VIOLENTLY HATING YOU BECAUSE ITS JUST A JOKE STOP BEING SUCH AN OVERSENSITIVE PISSBABY”. sound fucking familiar?

aphobia isnt a fucking joke. people are being abused, assaulted, committing suicide and your response to this is “haha we should joke about this and turn it into a ~wacky ironic self-descriptor~. Considering your damn movement has literally sent people suicide baiting and outright admitted theyd enjoy seeing ace/aro children DEAD, i would be more fucking cautious about using it and saying “oh, but i dont ~really~ hate those gross broken ace/aros, only the ones who expect me to listen to them”

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

not wanting to date trans people because they are trans is transphobic =/= you must date any individual trans person who asks you out or youre transphobic

youracediscourseisshit:

amerthysts:

You know what’s so fucking depressing to me? That so many members of the LGBT community feel entirely alienated or uncomfortable being part of it, because they are also a-spec.

Like, this hatred is not by any means isolated to “the cishet aces.” There’s sweeping bigotry against asexuality (and to a lesser degree, because its often forgotten, aromanticism) as an orientation itself, very prevalent in the community; but its so strong that no one cares what its doing to gay, trans, and m-spec aces, because they’re still asexual

In fact, there seems to be blatant denial! I can’t count on both hands the number of times I’ve been told “we don’t do x thing to asexuals!” or “no one has ever said x thing about aces!” or “asexuals don’t get treated x way or get told x thing!” and its blatant denial of the very real issue of ace discrimination that is far to common among us. Because y'all would rather discredit (yet more) ace testimonies of discrimination than address the underlying bigotry that is so rampant in our community; and you’re essentially excommunicating your own trans and lgbp siblings just because they happen to also be a-spec.

This is a Good Post™. I don’t understand why people can’t see this. This new fad of aphobia is ridiculous.

certifiedacehet:

aphobe: ur talking over bi people!!!!!!

me: actually I am a bi people and I’m scared tha–

aphobe: UR TALKINGOVER THEM. IM TALKING OVER U TO LET U KNOW THAT. UR TALKING. OVER.

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

so does being aro mean ive had my Gay Card revoked or something??? sorry guys guess im straight now time to start chortling about board games and watching sports programs and not at all being attacked from both sides for my identity

the-nonstraight-and-aro:

okay guys so what sounds like the worse scenario here, if one side were to get their way while it turns out the other was right:

1.) We exclude people we shouldn’t have and they are left feeling broken, shamed and alone, potentially being attacked by people around them and without any resources or spaces to feel safe. Their mental health suffers horribly and any theraputic settings try to “fix” them, leading to an even lower sense of wellbeing.

or

2.) a few “cishets” are in the community.

homophobes dont tend to want in on not only lgbt+ specific stuff but also look up terms not very well known and choose to identify as them

what are they honest-to-god going to do.

and dont say as if h o r r i f y i n g levels of bi/transphobia arent already present within the community

:

…..I’ll just leave this right here….

(also, I’ve seen people say “i sexually identify as an apache helicopter” over nineteen times i don’t think that meme is going out of fashion, unfortunately.)

it just hurts more coming from people in your own community